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Thank you for sharing this, Angela. So much here resonated with me.

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Iā€™m sorry it also resonated with you but Iā€™m so happy it found you. Thank you for reading šŸ–¤

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Thanks for being so open and vulnerable with us. This piece is so heartbreakingly relatable: growing up in the 00s really did a number on so many of us. The pressure to look a certain way yet adapt to the new trend or beauty standards, the unhealthy internal self-talk... I don't think it ever quite leaves you, and I know I really have to work to unlearn it all.

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ugh yes you're so right! I somehow always forget about the mess that was low jeans and hip bones in the 2000s (which I was SO into btw) but that culture was such a huge part of growing up. I mean I devoured The Simple Life and ANTM and all the things. I don't even know how I'd begin to unlearn it honestly, it feels just so deeply wedged in there. I'm sorry you've also felt this too. šŸ–¤

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Oct 15Liked by Angela Tyler

Angela this is equal parts heartbreaking and relatable. I think even if the thoughts didn't cement themselves in our brains, the majority of women I know understand the feeling of poking at our bodies. I will never forget the pressure of the thigh gap when I was growing up, and my God do I hope it's different for the little girls growing up today. This is so delicately written.

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yes!! Literally and emotionally always poking at ourselves. And oh my god the thigh gap!!! How could I forget?! It took me FOREVER to realize that some women will just never have that no matter how thin (even at my thinnest and most in shape I have never ever had a gap).

I'm so sorry you've experienced this as well šŸ–¤ I really do hope it's different for girls today. I think some of it will always be there, innately, and I wish that weren't true, but I think it is. However, I am grateful there's so much more body positivity than we ever had growing up. It was basically non-existent in the 90s/early 2000s.

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Great read, your vulnerability and openness to share your story makes your writing so powerful.

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Thank you Connor, I really appreciate that!!

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